Something I have taken forty years to learn (and still continue to work on) has really changed my life for the better.
It is this:
Do not expect others to share your reality.
Obvious? Oh, I think not.
You'd tell me (and I'd tell you) that of course we don't want or expect everyone to agree with us.
when we are in a group and someone says something way 'off the wall' or something that we completely disagree with, we look at them a little crooked.
Who is this person? They're insane. How quickly can I distance myself from this nut?
It's a natural response, for sure!
Here is the nugget: When we understand the fact that people have separate realities, it can be truly life changing. Their reality or view is allowable. It does not have to match yours. And, what's more, their reality does not negate yours (even if it is opposite).
When we get this, our world opens up.
We are free to have friends who are super different and enjoy that difference. Celebrate it. Laugh at it, even.
It's a beautiful thing.
Questions: Am I making any sense? Are you willing to give this some serious thought? Have you had any experiences with this principle? Let's discuss it!