tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post9198714367708061793..comments2023-06-28T06:36:14.559-06:00Comments on Tess Hilmo: Tell Me, Does This Drive You Nuts?!Tesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10014195715998913268noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post-16229475953985271862009-07-12T10:38:46.111-06:002009-07-12T10:38:46.111-06:00Elana - love the blank look, too funny!
Corey - s...Elana - love the blank look, too funny!<br /><br />Corey - sorry to say it was a real conversation. like I said, the person is top notch, but non writers really don't understand how difficult getting your foot in the publishing door can be.<br /><br />Danyelle - yep. wow.<br /><br />Sherrie - Me too, but it's hard because they are trying to be involved and interested in our lives. That's what a good friend does. it's just such a difficult question to answer if they don't know the industry or process.Tesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10014195715998913268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post-21399865220594480572009-07-10T09:01:03.457-06:002009-07-10T09:01:03.457-06:00I cringe every time I hear the "So, what'...I cringe every time I hear the "So, what's up with your book?" Really. Don't. Want. To Hear It!Sherrie Petersenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11670339498152684137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post-7708246412658761002009-07-08T20:28:53.650-06:002009-07-08T20:28:53.650-06:00Wow. Seriously. Wow.Wow. Seriously. Wow.Danyelle L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10366276085080565870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post-70629767388725960552009-07-08T12:57:55.941-06:002009-07-08T12:57:55.941-06:00OMG, too funny to be believed. Was that really ho...OMG, too funny to be believed. Was that really how it went... or did you take writer's liberty and embellish? :)Corey Schwartzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03883689227283545602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post-43394257992327308512009-07-08T08:58:05.221-06:002009-07-08T08:58:05.221-06:00Man, I've had conversations like that. My late...Man, I've had conversations like that. My latest one was:<br /><br />Them: Who's publishing your book?<br /><br />Me: *laughing* Well, I'm trying to get a literary agent first.<br /><br />Them: *blank look* <br /><br />Me: *They have no idea what an agent is. For the love.*<br /><br />LOL!<br /><br />Can't wait to meet you today!Elana Johnsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05877856005992028912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post-11402775653887991802009-07-07T21:34:38.039-06:002009-07-07T21:34:38.039-06:00Suzanne - shall we take a 'no cook out' pa...Suzanne - shall we take a 'no cook out' pact till after our books are in print? It's tempting.<br /><br />Anita - lol! Be careful what you ask for;)<br /><br />Lisa - Let's tell them we would have our books out,but instead we're wasting time being caught up in a huge bidding war. I like that one.<br /><br />Robyn - How could we forget about the classic, 'change the subject' routine? Yes, it's an oldie but goodie.Tesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10014195715998913268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post-46021999175166986372009-07-07T17:09:27.566-06:002009-07-07T17:09:27.566-06:00I hate those conversations! A friend I hadn't ...I hate those conversations! A friend I hadn't seen in a while and I had this conversation. Friend,"So Robyn, is your book published yet?" Me, "Uh no, I just finished writing it." Her, "Oh, I'm sorry. I didn't know you were having trouble with it." Me, "I wasn't having any trouble, it takes more than a month to write a book." Her, "I see." She changes subject on purpose. I go home and SCREAM! You handle these things so much better than I do. I wanted to smack friend upside the head! :)Robyn Campbellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17356555082768185840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post-69588245280203073702009-07-07T16:18:20.281-06:002009-07-07T16:18:20.281-06:00I hear you, Tess. When I tell people that I've...I hear you, Tess. When I tell people that I've finished the FIRST DRAFT of my book, they often say, "So, do you have publisher lined up?"<br /><br />I try to breath deep and blather something about how it doesn't really work like that.<br /><br />I think I'll start saying, "Yeah, in fact I have three or four lined up and waiting for me to finish those revisions."<br /><br />The thing is, they'd probably believe me.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07697071777092163740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post-76115264585903787642009-07-07T15:30:42.151-06:002009-07-07T15:30:42.151-06:00I wonder if you could have your friend call me...I...I wonder if you could have your friend call me...I could use her advice. :)Anitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06333494452915600562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post-82824439713954910342009-07-07T14:14:57.230-06:002009-07-07T14:14:57.230-06:00OK what I hate are the people who think vanity pub...OK what I hate are the people who think vanity publishing and real publishing are the same thing. ARGHHH.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post-33974063859661498872009-07-07T13:48:43.514-06:002009-07-07T13:48:43.514-06:00I had five people come up to me at the cookout I w...I had five people come up to me at the cookout I went to and tell me what books I HAD TO READ because they sounded SO MUCH LIKE WHAT I WAS WRITING. Egad.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09556206184198452490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post-21608461784965612112009-07-07T13:41:17.498-06:002009-07-07T13:41:17.498-06:00Shelli - so glad to hear it. it helps to know we&#...Shelli - so glad to hear it. it helps to know we're not alone in this crazy thing.<br /><br />BJ - nope.<br /><br />Jill - I've been wonderin' when you were gonna do that. Apparantly, like JKB said, they're at Dunkin Donuts. Now we know ;)<br /><br />Quixotic - it's good we can laugh, right?<br /><br />Glam - exactly. heart in the right place, but no clue. and, that's ok, really. I mean, I was clueless before I started really getting into this writing gig. In fact, I'm still pretty clueless about so many things!<br /><br />Paige - you are a true friend who listens. bless you. and, I totally get that there was no intent for harm in this conversation. I found it truly funny.<br /><br />Davin - now THAT'S funny!Tesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10014195715998913268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post-59171533303624061892009-07-07T13:21:09.140-06:002009-07-07T13:21:09.140-06:00I think this is one of the perks of living in Los ...I think this is one of the perks of living in Los Angeles. Everyone assumes I'm a failure rather than automatically thinking I'm a success! My conversations are more like:<br /><br />"So, how's your book coming."<br /><br />"Fine, I just finished it."<br /><br />"Sure you did, and I bet you think you can get an agent. Better not quit your day job."Davin Malasarnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09385823575081492949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post-78740473220530699142009-07-07T12:46:05.757-06:002009-07-07T12:46:05.757-06:00Wow. Even I, a non writer, gets it a bit better ...Wow. Even I, a non writer, gets it a bit better than that. Sorry about the frustration. And good for you for biting your tongue. I'm sure they didn't mean anything by their ignorant comments, they just don't know any better.superpaigehttp://paige.ericksonfamily.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post-4009191200346751672009-07-07T12:42:11.477-06:002009-07-07T12:42:11.477-06:00HAH! I don't know exactly how this feels, but ...HAH! I don't know exactly how this feels, but pretty close. I deal with a lot of non writer friends who just don't GET it. URGH!Michelle D. Argylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09696465137285587646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post-70047211797944737072009-07-07T12:12:34.052-06:002009-07-07T12:12:34.052-06:00Oh My Goodness. I needed a good laugh. LoL. Non wr...Oh My Goodness. I needed a good laugh. LoL. Non writers just don't get it. HA HA HA HAKatie Salidashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15159923761047042193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post-34707819919329730832009-07-07T10:30:47.672-06:002009-07-07T10:30:47.672-06:00I'm going to go pick up an agent and tell them...I'm going to go pick up an agent and tell them to sell my book to the editor I want right now! I had no idea it was so easy! Thanks, Tess!Jill Kemererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07865493609868329393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post-77945831584753419122009-07-07T10:24:58.382-06:002009-07-07T10:24:58.382-06:00LOL! Yeah, they just don't get it.LOL! Yeah, they just don't get it.B.J. Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10767654810069240472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post-16381675752567845952009-07-07T09:46:18.385-06:002009-07-07T09:46:18.385-06:00Ive had those exact convos. bless themIve had those exact convos. bless themShelli (srjohannes)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17123227845032402600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post-4432132772694348832009-07-07T08:49:58.524-06:002009-07-07T08:49:58.524-06:00Janna - Yes, it would be nice if they paid closer ...Janna - Yes, it would be nice if they paid closer attention. this friend was not anywhere near a 'best' so that helps, I guess.<br /><br />LT - we do get used to it, don't we? And, I really wasn't upset. Just shook my head.<br /><br />JKB - exactly!!!!!<br /><br />Yunaleska - I think people are more careful w/ their words over on your side of the pond. We Americans sometimes suffer from "too loose tongue" syndrome :D<br /><br />Cynthia - wouldn't it be great if it WAS as easy as a lunch date? Piece of cake! lol.<br /><br />MeganRebekah - thanks. no, no biting or choking involved. funny girl ;)<br /><br />Scott- I know! What have I been thinking all this time?! I mean, seriously! And, I often wish I held some things closer to my vest.<br /><br />Michelle - cool! check out the super neat stuff I am learning through this whiney, snitty post. A potter? And to help run a studio like that? How very wonderful...and I bet it was rewarding on so many levels. But, "to play in the mud all day"??? I'm sure they thought they were the first to think of that clever joke ;)<br /><br />Crystal - Yes, I laugh at it, too. It is funny and it's important we don't get upset or make a big deal out of it. Like I said at the start of the post, these are good people through and through. My point is - non writing people don't have a clue how difficult it is or how long the journey is. *sigh*<br /><br />Great comments, guys! Thanks!Tesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10014195715998913268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post-33274381763545128992009-07-07T07:06:52.434-06:002009-07-07T07:06:52.434-06:00Tess, that was TOO funny! But unfortunately, non-w...Tess, that was TOO funny! But unfortunately, non-writers do think like that A LOT. I always get the "Have you finished your book yet?" It can be truly frustrating. But you handled it well! :)Crystalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09968456960528987538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post-41741527928848724972009-07-07T07:04:38.499-06:002009-07-07T07:04:38.499-06:00I've gotten good at changing the subject a lit...I've gotten good at changing the subject a little to focus on what I have been working on, or a conference I'll be attending or something. <br /><br />Yat-Yee, I got the same thing as a potter. I ran a production studio that produced roughly 1000 pots a week. It was my job to keep the kilns loaded and firing on schedule, hire, train and supervise part-time staff(usually college art students)and get my own work done as well. And give tours to the public, who often commented on how nice it must be to play in the mud all day.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05192888587472646161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post-74393959840371999282009-07-07T06:19:48.413-06:002009-07-07T06:19:48.413-06:00Serioulsy, Tess, why haven't you asked your ag...Serioulsy, Tess, why haven't you asked your agent to call the publisher?? I mean, really!<br /><br />Too funny . . . and sadly true. Non-writers don't have a clue. I guess that's why I keep my writing a dark little secret that I only share with my closest friends . . . and people in the blogsphere. Thanks for the morning laugh.<br /><br />SScotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06905515473737579937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post-9623434529018403782009-07-07T06:15:24.538-06:002009-07-07T06:15:24.538-06:00Oh that would kill me! You handled it well it seem...Oh that would kill me! You handled it well it seems -- no choking, slapping or biting involved. Yeah!MeganRebekahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03285116194891827858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6599945087910073527.post-47038593133833689622009-07-07T06:15:09.523-06:002009-07-07T06:15:09.523-06:00What a great post, Tess! Yup, I've been in sim...What a great post, Tess! Yup, I've been in similar situations one too many times. I once had a relative suggest that I must have befriended an editor (taken her out to lunch, etc.) to land my first book contract. Because that's how it's done, right? Sigh. Good intentions from those looking at the world of writing and publishing from the outside in can be hard to grapple with.Cynthia Chapman Willishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12408985785062180536noreply@blogger.com